I can write only as it happened....
Last Friday night we went to going away party for some friends of ours (a usual occurrence when living overseas).
We were invited by this couple, who asked me to bring a salad. The party was lovely...
there were two servers (also usual because of cheaper labor overseas), two salads,(mine and from another lady), wine and champagne, salmon and a meat dish, desserts....
They had bought them 3 beautiful photo books about Brazil...
all seems normal right?
Skip to Tuesday and an email from the person who invited us, and held it in their house, and asked for the salad (written to all that had attended):
Thank you for joining us in our home for the farewell of Mr. and Mrs. It was a lovely evening. But as you know, nothing comes for free in this world, so please see the attached (read: excel spread sheet) for your costs for the party. Please pay at your convenience.
WHAT??? EXCUSE ME???
Both my husband and I were shocked. I could totally understand if they wanted all of us to help out with the gift that they choose to give them. But PLEASE, to pitch in for everything else? I mean maybe if they had come out BEFORE the party and said something like, let's all pitch in together and have a farewell party, etc...but after the fact? AND after they asked me to bring a salad?
The spread sheet has everything broken down into servers, food, drinks, gift, etc...
my question that I feel like emailing back to them:
Do I get to deduct the cost of my salad?